If there was ever a blog post I would have written for the younger version of myself, this would be it. If there ever was 3 days 2 nights self-development workshop I would have ever organized for guys, this would have been the topic. If there was ever a thesis I would have written as a … Continue reading Why People Love Idealists But Will Settle For Pragmatists
One key lesson I learned about communication over the years, is the vital need to be able to contol your emotions. In fact I've realized that the person who can control his emotions, which in turn will influence his communication, will be able to control other people's emotions. It may sound a bit cliched, but … Continue reading Why You Should Control Your Emotions Before You Communicate
A year back, I was appointed as my island's Toastmasters' District Public Relations Manager. The role was essentially to spread the good word about the organization, its people and programs to the general public. As I am winding down to my last month of service, I realized that there were plenty of learning points that … Continue reading Quick Communication (and relationship) Tips I Learned From Being A PR Manager
This is an attempt to write a blog post after almost a gazillion years of not doing so. A blogger's block apparently is a terminal disease. Back then, about a few months ago, I aspired to try and blog regularly. Never found the will, resilience and steadfastness to do so. Procrastination and the lack of … Continue reading When You Miss That Part Of You
Been wanting to post this for a while, but never quite found the right reasons to. Until, someone showed me a profile of a whiner. Scrolled through the profile and had a bit of a laugh. Winners Do Not Post Questions Asking For Opinions On Mundane Stuffs - Seriously, who will wanna be wrecking their … Continue reading 3 Things Winners Don’t Post On Facebook
This post is not meant to be factual. Even if it is, it should not cause any distress to anyone. If it does, then it can only mean that you are the type I am mentioning here. Even if you are not bothered by this post, take heed. You will still be surrounded by these … Continue reading 5 Types Of Colleagues You Ought To Bash To Death
I watched the movie "The Last Exorcism" with the missus a while ago. In a nutshell, it was kinda lame for a genre that I had always been fascinated by. Demonic possessions enthralls me, as the idea of your physical body being inhibited by a foreign entity is kinda mystifying. Anyway, that's not my point … Continue reading Why Would You Wanna Embrace Your Demon?
“But I think we both knew, even then, that what we had was something even more rare, and even more meaningful. I was going to be his friend, and was going to show him possibilities. And he, in turn, would become someone I could trust more than myself.” I think I had one of those … Continue reading When You Are Just Somebody That I Used To Know
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” ― Søren Kierkegaard Best thing that happened last year, was that, it ended. Never quite remembered a year that was filled with more episodes that was worth forgetting. Quite a few milestones will be etched in my mind as milestones. Here were the few, … Continue reading And 2012 Ended.
Do I really look like a guy with a plan? You know what I am? I’m a dog chasing cars. I wouldn’t know what to do with one if I caught it! You know, I just, do things. The mob has plans, the cops have plans, Gordon’s got plans. … Continue reading Let’s Introduce A Lil’ Anarchy
I recently went on an agency trip to Bangkok. It was organized with the intention of fostering camaraderie between the leaders,planners and to perhaps create an intentional sense of bonding. Whether this intention was successful or not, it is still open to judgement. For me, any trip that is not lined up with an agenda, … Continue reading It’s Only Food,Dimwits…
When everyone talks about love,relationships and commitments in the same breath as unicorns,princesses and castles, you know very much that you are listening to a stock market analysis. Having the privilege of listening in to commentaries regarding the ideal partners,women will probably fawn over, I could not help but … Continue reading When You Start Wishing For Utopia
you. with that listless hair,walking through the bustle of the street. i wanna play the guitar. with you. by your side. i cannot pluck. and i cannot strum to save my life. but you. make me think i can. i have the guitar. somewhere here. beside me. you. can … Continue reading Will You Play The Guitar With Me
The soul mate is that one person who does things beyond your comprehension. That one person who does things without the need for gratification or validation. The soul mate probably saw things in a way that is beyond your field of vision. Where you probably saw, a grassland of patchy mounds, he probably saw you … Continue reading The relentless search for the soul mate.
I received a Whatsapp message from a friend the other day, that recounted a Hadeeth. I managed to glance at the message and upon seeing the short narration, I just deleted it. I pondered for a moment, if it was the right thing to do, since I did not even bothered reading it. Nevertheless, … Continue reading Why I Am Not Technologically Close To God.
This might be the dumbest post I attempt to write, but I guess when I read this post again in eons to come, this might just be an insightful piece of blog post I could have ever written. The inspiration behind this post is very simple. I'm beginning to see how this "pretentious" "bug is … Continue reading How To Deal With Pretentious People In 5 Easy Steps
I woke up from such a random dream, that definitely left me emotionally charged, with a plethora of feelings. As I walked to the train station, on the way to work, I asked myself the proverbial question,"Why?". These are probably the reasons I can think of. 1. Certain Individuals Are Just Meant To Stick Yes, … Continue reading 5 Reasons To Understand Why You Should Not Forget The Past Too Quickly
The recent days had seen reports, official statements and opinions from scores of individuals within the community, about the intention of having an Obedient Wives Club being formed right on our shores. This establishment, that was supposedly founded and propagated by the splinter units of the now defunct Al Arqam was seen by many as … Continue reading Why There Should Be An Obedient Wives Club
Have you ever felt the need to ask for murder to be legalized? It may be your nagging spouse, your intrusive in laws,.your domineering boss, your pesky colleagues or even your emotional blackmailing scandal. Whatever the case is, you are mad with them. And you are definitely sure that Mustafa Center do not actually sell … Continue reading How To Deal With Frustration Without Killing Anyone
It's hard to escape into the realms of your inner thoughts, when you are besieged by the hectic lifestyle demanded in Singapore. In another lifetime, in another alternate yet parallel universe, I am very much an emotionally deranged busker who finds solace in having a cup of coffee after every evening when the sun casts … Continue reading Stretching An Imagination [Part 1]
Just thought I will write a short post before I end the day. I had a short meeting with my director this afternoon, and it was just another random yet purposeful discussion on the areas of my business. After having been under the tutelage and guidance of two Malay managers in the past, it was … Continue reading All Good To Go
One of the things that I realized after being on a self imposed blogging hiatus, is that, I miss it. Like how I miss dancing to the grooves of an R&B tune. Meaning that, it is not necessarily needed, ie blogging, but it provides a needed reprieve. Especially when things are just muddled up, … Continue reading That Thing About Being The Leader…
You may have been in this scenario before. By some freak accident, you are discovered to be a shining example of what superior performance is all about. People find you to be an amicable piece of art. A personality so engaging and influential that people just feel so alive by your vibes. … Continue reading How To Defeat Your Office’s Political Voldermort?
An email that seemed so simple in its heading will probably turn out to be a defining read for me in this new year. A Toastmaster's acquaintance wrote to just highlight that she is currently recuperating. A recent biopsy has diagnosed her with malignant cancer in her pancreas, liver and several organs. In that email, … Continue reading …and the flow goes on and on.
After having not blogged for quite a while, I knew that I needed a real sense of inspiration to just get that literary juices up and flowing. The inspiration came in the recent revelations that has been dominating the news scene with regards to Mas Selamat's rendezvous with the law. To cut the long story … Continue reading Why Malay Leaders Irked Me This Few Days
Here's a fact. Your life has been preordained to a term. In such a way, there is nothing you can do about it. You can never add a day more, or decrease it by a single minute. To a believer, life is so trivial, that it has been likened to a playground. Yet we are … Continue reading The Not So Important Things
As a guy, I find the above title repulsive. In an age where it is easier to just text, "Babe, m sorie for wat I did. Swear it will not happen again. See u tonite?", makes the whole apology letter genre so out dated. And this is where I believe the value actually lies in. … Continue reading How To Pen An Apology Letter To Your Ex Girlfriend
The irony is evident. There are scores of young Muslims, extolling the virtues of Ramadhan and fasting, through their Facebook statuses, Twitter updates, blog posts and pictures. These selected group takes pain to explain and conceptualize the idea of fasting to non Muslims. These group are dilligently doing the works of da'wah. Then there are … Continue reading Irony Of It All
It's that simple. Some girls just think too highly of themselves. They believe that the finito to a man's desire and dreams end with them. They overestimate themselves. They believe in an atrocious philosophy that a man who dwindles on his options is just missing out on them. In fact, some of these girls might … Continue reading Best Advice I Could Give To A Single Lady
I have only one wearable jeans. It happens to be the cheapest jeans available, having bought it at only $14.90. It has no real brand worthy of a second or third look. It happens to be just another washed up looking jeans. Realized then that over the past 15 years of jeans wearing, I happened … Continue reading How Are Those Jeans?
I read something profoundly simple in a passage from a book earlier today. In it, was the story of the bricklayers. There is an old story about three bricklayers. One day, a curious child approaches the bricklayers to see what they are doing. When the child reaches the first bricklayer and asks,“What are you doing?,” … Continue reading What Are You Building?
Dealing With Options One of the beauties about growing wiser, is the ability to selectively position yourself in a state of mind where not everything may seem as important as they are made out to be. What I mean by this is that I no longer, press myself to think about issues that may sometimes … Continue reading How To Embrace The Wolverine In Us?
I wonder if, during your early years of school, and you were taught history as a subject, you really started to use that brain? It is not an insult, but rather an observation. The observation is plain and simple. We were taught what was already there. Presented in subjects, via textbooks and assessments. So, rarely, … Continue reading Why You Should Be A Creative Force
People sometimes fail to see beyond the superficial. This is especially true if you are the sort, who is heavily induced on a high volume dosage of positivity. When this happens, you may hallucinate the prickly thorns in life as sweet scented petals of roses. I was like that. Heavily sedated with that air of … Continue reading Too Much Of Self Developments
I rarely experience horror. But today, I experienced horror explicitly. The moment I entered office, an unknown colleague remarked,"Jaz, nice. Tight pants huh?" I looked at the frontal bulge and smiled sheepishly. Darn. It definitely was not a case of mistaken identity. It did feel tight. I did feel a lack of room, "down there". … Continue reading Size 33 Please
The recent murder of a 28 year old Malay man, by an unlawful assembly of 7 Malay men disturbs me. It disturbs me because, I just cannot pinpoint a valid reason as to why, anyone will want to waste a good life away, by killing someone else. For whatever sentiments or emotions, any members of … Continue reading What Is The Use?
Sometimes I wonder why people wanna read my blog posts. Seriously. There have been episodes in my life when the emergence of content sensitive posts, on my blog have either ruffled the feathers of those unassuming enough. Sometimes, my blog posts have been witnesses to the destruction of long term relationships, because I was so … Continue reading When Morons Like Me Blog.
I recently saw a printed ad by the Ministry of Defence, targeted specifically for the purpose of recruitment. The thing that caught my eye was the designation given to the position. DXO. Knowing how Singapore's establishments love the usage of acronyms, it still tickled me to think that the designation sounded like a brand of … Continue reading Letting Go And Moving On
Here's a thought I had in the shower. Do you plan your life according to your goals? Or do you plan your goals according to your life? It sounds ridiculously stupid but I was just asking myself if the consequences and outcomes were gonna be vastly different. The case for my argument is this. Would … Continue reading Elementary, My Dear Watson
You can look at life from two angles. It can be a series of unexpected, challenging, unorthodox, unconventional, full of surprises, turbulent and totally random experiences. Or you can choose to look at it as a predestined, unavoidable, mundane, routine, non committed and totally unlucky set of outcomes. There are many choices that we can … Continue reading Looking Any Way
The Toddler's Case Earlier in the week, I made an observation of an interesting dynamic. I saw a young toddler, perhaps barely three years of age, trying to climb over a gate. It was not a high gate, and I sincerely believed, that with several attempts, he would have made it. Standing beside the toddler … Continue reading It Is Always About The Right Question
How do I begin? I've lost all sense of vision I had when I started my stint as a financial consultant. It's not about passion. I am passionate about this career, because achieving financial freedom is an elusive and engaging idea that I wish to pursue with my clients. I dare not proclaim to be … Continue reading Revisiting Passion
Knowing Your Self Worth I learned something. Or rather realized something. Intimidation or motivation via innuendos or sarcasms is a cowardly way of putting a point across. I don't know why and how it dawned on me, but it did. It's like taking peanuts thrown at you, and then throwing it back behind a wall. Funny? Yes. … Continue reading Blowing Your Bubbles
Why The Gaga? I realize that all clients believe that they have a one of a kind financial product / policy. You can see it in their eyes, when you ask them if they have a financial portfolio. Without a moment of hesitation, they will be armed to the teeth with a list of products … Continue reading Why Lady Gaga Would Make A Great Financial Planner
I just watched a mindless show, and yes I would have loved to say Anugerah Skrin. Unfortunately it's Cougar Town. Free TV this year has been good. Ever since the cable was terminated, there has been reprieve. But not if it's constant reruns on Suria. Talking about mindless, I was just wondering if I can … Continue reading The Art Of Going Mindless
I love watching good television series. And one of my favorite, Fringe, will be premiering its second season soon. Seeing the trailers last night made me tingle with excitement. The premise of alternate universes, time travel and strange occurences is enticing. As I watched, a question popped up in my head. How will my alternate … Continue reading Alternate Choices
Most people associate achievements with influence. Meaning that if you are a teacher, the higher you rise up in ranks, the more influential you are perceived to be. It may also mean that you will be inaccessible to the students and occassionally hated by your peers and subordinates. Just maybe. In the sales world, such … Continue reading How To Be An Influential Underachiever
Investments are price sensitive. And price are news sensitive. And news are circumstance sensitive. And circumstance are time sensitive. So in a nutshell, investments are time sensitive. If the CEO of a reputable company is fired, the shareholders will definitely affect the holdings, which will then affect the stock indexes, which will then affect investors … Continue reading The Next Bad Idea Please
The bad news is, you will never know for sure. They probably come in all shapes and sizes. They probably even drive their BMWs and Mercedes into your car porch. Sometimes they may even let you sign your application forms with their gold plated Mont Blanc fountain pens. And sometimes, just sometimes, they may even … Continue reading What Does A Serial Incompetent Product Pushing Financial Planner Look Like?
Financial planners are essentially super heroes. At least in my mind that is. Having read a paragraph of Seth Godin's Linchpin, I have to totally agree on the important need to bring a certain value to the table. Unique,indispensable and totally valuable. A superhero that claims that he can fly,has x-ray vision and can travel … Continue reading What I Learned From Superheroes